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Operation Beautiful

I love surprises and games. The unexpected, the competition, well… they just do it for me.

The other day I was reading my book from the Bartlesville Library. As I turned the page, I noticed there was a note inside.

I have found many notes inside library books. Usually they have been used as place holders and are just scraps of paper that don’t really have much meaning. On a couple of occasions I have found a recipe left inside of a book which always seems like a gift because I love to bake and cook.

But the note I found this time was something very different.

I was sitting outside on the patio reading but I immediately tweeted the photo, minus the website. I didn’t know what the website would be about and thought I would check it out later when I went back in the house but I loved the message in the note. It made the retweeting rounds because I wasn’t the only one who saw the value in the cool message.

When I came back inside, I was very interested to go to the website written on the note. What an amazing discovery! The mission of Operation Beautiful is to end negative self-talk in women. The author,Caitlin Boyle, began leaving notes in public restrooms to let women know that they are beautiful just the way they are. In an effort to end negative self-talk which hurts you emotionally, spiritually, and physically, she began jotting down whatever message came to mind in hopes that it would bring a smile to the recipient and maybe just change that negative talk.

I LOVE this!

It took me until the age of 41 to really like myself. I think that’s a very sad statement for me to be able to make. I suffered an eating disorder – bulimarexia – for many years ultimately almost killing myself when I shut down my metabolism in 1999. It is only by the grace of God that I am even here to write this today.

I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to have received this amazing surprise in a random library book. I will now be leaving my own notes along the way.

Something I have learned from working with my gals in the Mrs. Oklahoma International pageant is that beauty truly does come in all shapes and sizes and that we are all beautiful. The beauty that shines from the heart is truly spectacular and much more powerful than superficial surface beauty.

So know this: You are BEAUTFUL! operationbeautiful.com

The verdict: my skin care decision

I have been using the Anew skin care products by Avon since they first came out. I can’t remember exactly when that was but it has to have been over 20 years ago.

Throughout those 20+ years I have received too many compliments on my skin to count. That’s why I was always loyal to those products. Until just a month or so ago.

I had to buy a new formulation. There was no getting the old formulation unless I wanted to buy it on eBay and run the risk of it being out of date, previously open, or something else icky. The new Anew formulation is disgusting. It sits on the top of your skin (similar to Avon lipstick) creating an oil slick and never absorbing. Additionally, it smells nasty.

Smells are important to me. There are so many I just can’t stand, that make me nauseous. When lotions and potions get old, their smell changes so that was a real consideration in my decision about whether I could buy the old items on eBay.

I started to get worried as the creams and cleanser inched toward the bottom of their containers. I did research. There are SO many options, so much variety.

I am a Libra. Born under the sign of the scales, with too many choices, I find my life hanging in the balance and no where to go. Paralyzed.

Finally, I realized I had to do SOMETHING. I decided on a product that I could get relatively inexpensively at Walgreen’s of all places. Cost is kind of a factor when you are purchasing something new because the range of price is as great as the range of selection. But these products had an amazingly good review and amazingly low price.

And they weren’t in the store.

Nowhere on the shelf at Walgreen’s could I find what I was looking for. So there I was again. Paralyzed by indecision. I knew I had to get something and so I took a leap.

I ended up grabbing the Oil of Olay Age Defying products; cleanser, day cream and night cream.

The verdict? I love them! I’ve been using these products for a little over a week and they are awesome.

I love the cleanser. It has the grains in it that makes your skin feel really clean and refreshed. The day and night creams absorb into my skin and it looks

great. Bonus points: it all SMELLS good! And of course, there is a cherry on top of all of this. I got all three products for less than $30. Yay!So I’m really happy with my choice. I’m going to use these products until I find they aren’t doing the trick. I’d still be interested in trying the one that I went to get initially but when something’s not broken, I don’t usually attempt to fix it. 🙂

Brava!

You know I love to read. I like to read all kinds of books and regularly go through the new books at the library pulling them off the shelf, look at the cover, look inside, maybe read the back or flap to decide if I want to take them home with me.

I end up reading all different kinds of books this way but if a book isn’t good, I don’t waste my time. Two of my mottoes in life are “So many books, so little time” and “Life is too short to read bad books”.

I particularly like books that draw me in right away and also books that have fabulous characters that I’d like to know in real life. Those books are the hardest to finish, though, because I never want them to end. I miss the characters when the story is over.

A book that falls into this category is Saving CeeCee Honeycutt by Beth Hoffman. The story drew me in right away but I grew to love all of the amazing, colorful characters inside.

I wrote about this book on The Mrs. Oklahoma Pageant blog because in it, Aunt Tootie tells Cee Cee how to find her fire. The way she did this perfectly described how I would help a contestant in the pageant figure out what platform she should promote.

I contacted Beth and asked her if I could excerpt her story on the pageant blog and she graciously said yes. I was so excited! Later, she asked me if I could share my story on her blog on a page called Brava! She said it was a place where she highlights women that she admires.

Wowza. I was honored, humbled, excited!

I had written an article about the pageant from my perspective and submitted it to a local magazine here in Tulsa. They told me that it wasn’t really what they were looking for so it was just sitting in my computer without a home. I told Beth I actually had already written something and I sent it to her.

The week we were in Chicago at the Mrs. International Pageant, Beth shared my story on her blog. I cried. I finally got to tell people how I feel as the director of the amazing women who enter our pageant and Beth actually thought someone would be interested.

Beth and I have established a friendship that I treasure. If you get a chance to read her book, you should. It’s awesome and truly one of my all time favorites. Thank you, Beth!

Coffee on the rocks

I love iced coffee. When it’s 106 degrees outside, as it has been in Oklahoma the past few days, there is nothing more refreshing.

When I say iced coffee, I mean just that: coffee over ice. That’s all. Coffee on the rocks.

You can’t imagine how hard it is to order this in a restaurant. It seems so easy to me. When you order iced tea, what do they bring you? A nice tall glass of tea over ice. Right?

So why is iced coffee so hard to understand?

When I’ve ordered iced coffee, I’ve gotten coffee, in a cup, with a few tiny, almost melted ice cubes remaining on top. Eeeuuuww, really? Lukewarm coffee is disgusting.

I’ve been asked “What flavor?” What flavor? Umm, coffee would be the flavor.

I usually find that I have to give detailed instructions: please put ice in a tall glass like the one you put Coke in, then pour the coffee over it. Maybe bring me an extra glass of ice in case it’s not iced by the time you bring it to my table.

I’m always so excited to actually get my iced coffee even if I have to give directions. I am very encouraging to the server as I give them the directions just knowing they will be able to get it right.

I’m even more excited when the server already knows how to make me iced coffee. And the ultimate? When the server brings me the iced coffee AND the extra glass of ice and I never told them how to do it. Yay! Bonus points. 🙂

Buy me some peanuts and Joe Pepitone

I don’t care if we ever go home.

I come from a baseball loving family. I’m not a fan but when they’d load up the vans to go to Wrigley Field when I was a kid, I was right in the middle of the fun.

And it was fun.

Not the baseball itself, but the ride there with my cousins, being at the ball park, singing at the 7th inning stretch, and watching all the activity. Oh, and looking for cute boys should most definitely be included in that list.

The summer we were 10, my cousin Cindy and I decided that we thought Cubs first baseman, Joe Pepitone, was cute. He had our attention for the entire game and he became our favored object of affection for months afterwards.

That Halloween, we decided to dress up as Joe Pepitone. We created our Cubs uniforms out of white pants and white shirts, used blue tape to make 8s on our backs and walked around town, the two cutest Joe Pepitones that ever begged for candy.

I was just in Chicago and spent a couple of days with Cindy. She told me that she had recently won a trivia contest on the radio. The question was, “What was Joe Pepitone’s number when he played for the Cubs?”

Random, yes?

Well, maybe for most people but not for us. They asked her how she knew that and she told them our Halloween story on the air. So funny, to me, but also so cool that our 10 year old obsession won her a prize 40 years later.

Prizes and winning. You know how I feel about that. 😉

Shoes, glorious shoes!

I love shoes.

I have square feet.

Those two facts in my life do not, can not, peacefully co-exisit.

I remember the first time I got wide shoes. I was 6. The shoes were navy blue and they were ugly but I could wiggle my toes in my shoes for the first time and I was so HAPPY to have those ugly shoes.

For much of my life, I have had just a couple of pairs of shoes in my closet. Workout and running shoes are easy because I can buy men’s shoes. Those shoes don’t have to be cute, they just have to be functional. My shoes look just like David’s and that is okay. Interestingly, I get the men’s wide in these shoes and I love them because I never have to break them in. They fit perfectly, I get no blisters, no tightness.

About four years ago, Payless started making cute shoes with high heels. I love being able to go and find shoes that actually fit and are actually cute just like my friends. I now have more shoes in my closet than I have ever had in my life. I love it!

But…I cannot get shoes like this:

Or like this:

Or like this:

I walk into the shoe department at Nordstrom and am faced with thousands of cute shoes I will never be able to wear. So sad.

I told David this a.m. that I really need to open a shoe factory that will make cute wide shoes so that when I come to the Mrs. International Pageant I will have cute shoes like everyone else. His reply?

“You could start with selling your current shoes. That more than likely would fund the factory.”

Argghhhh! He just doesn’t get it. He should realize just how fortunate he was for around 25 years of our marriage when I had virtually no shoe options and that I can never catch up to other women even if I do start my own shoe factory.

Ryunosuke Satoro said, “Let your dreams outgrow the shoes of your expectations” but the problem with that is that the shoes I expect ARE my dream!

FACINATE-ing

You know, I’m a sucker for those personality tests that you find online. I like to do them to see if they really “get” me or not. I’m always surprised when they do just because I answered a set of questions in a particular way.

Today, I saw a link to the {F}SCORE BRAND personality TEST so of course I had to take it. This test is from the book Fascinate by Sally Hogshead which is on my list of books to read. I’m even more interested to read it now.

The idea behind the {F} Score test is that every day, intentionally or not, you’re using fascination triggers to persuade people at work and home. Whether you’re pitching a new client, or inviting a friend to lunch, or lulling a cranky toddler to sleep, you’re using riggers to elicit a certain response.

The author says you have seven potential fascination triggers: power, trust, mystique, prestige, vice, alarm, and lust. Each trigger leads to a different style of communication, and a different type of relationship. The more accurately you identify your personality triggers, and the more intelligently you hone them, the more influential your message becomes.

My fascination triggers are, in order, Lust, Alarm and Mystique.

My primary trigger is Lust. According to the results that means I draw people closer with a warm and open style of interaction. I’m expressive with ideas, communicate well in person, and probably have a strong creative streak. Even when I mask my emotions, I feel passionately about my opinions.

It indicates that I’m intuitive with information, often making decisions based on gut instinct rather than cold intellect. While other personality types prefer facts, I’m more attuned to the nuances of attitude, design, and a certain indefinable je ne sais quoi. Interestingly, back in the day, I had a licence plate for my car that said “LUSTY L”.

Secondarily, I have a trigger of Alarm. The definition states that I could either be responsive to alarm or cause it. I believe I’m responsive to alarm which means I’m extremely sensitive to demands in my environment, and focus on ways to avoid conflict. I’m highly attuned to the expectations of others. Deadlines make me more productive, and demands push me to achieve more. I work hard to avoid experiencing unpleasant surprises. I’m probably also using the trust trigger to send consistent, uncontroversial messages.

My dormant trigger is Mystique. This means I don’t hide my emotions or opinions. I’m straightforward and open.

Only 1.9% of the people who took the {F} score use the same primary and secondary triggers of Lust and Alarm. So fascinating!

So here’s another one for you to try. See if this test can “get” you like it “got” me. Have fun!

Modern day techno Girl Scout

(Sung to the tune of Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley)

Buffalo mayor, she walks downtown,

There was a buffalo mayor, in the heart of Bartlesville

Bartian and Fabulous,

Woolaroc Wiley

Said she’s a buffalo mayor, she walks downtown

Buffalo mayor, in the heart

of Bartlesville

One of the new and interesting things we learned at a recent meeting of the Bartlesville Marketing and Communications Association was about geolocation services, most notably Foursquare.I had heard of Foursquare prior to that and I think that the advantages and customer service perks that can be had by a brick and mortar business are great. But the pageant is an event and I really didn’t want everyone knowing where I am all the time so I hadn’t done anything with it.

As Scott Townsend (fabu and oh so smart!) explained to us, you don’t have to let everyone know where you are. You can choose whether or not you want them to know. He talked about the cool badges and points you can earn.

What? Badges? Points? My ultra competitive interest was piqued!

Pretty soon, I was out collecting mayorships and badges like a modern day techno Girl Scout. (Check out my Super Mayor badge. It has a crown and is my favorite.)

I knew that my first Mayorship would be at the Bartlesville Public Library and I was right. I am there almost every day. I was keen to oust Scott as mayor of the US Post Office but I actually ousted him from the Kicks 66 station on Adams first. (Ousting the mayor is the Bartlesville way.)

Scott has a great idea involving the buffaloes that are popping up all over the ‘Ville. He thinks that the buffaloes, combined with foursquare could make a really fun walking tour of Bartlesville. So he has begun entering them into the system.

I am currently the mayor of the Bartian and Fabulous buffalo,

the Woolaroc Wiley buffalo,

the Frank Lloyd Wright buffalo,

and the OK Mozart buffalo.

Incidentally, I’m also the mayor of the 66 sculpture but that’s a blog for another time.

Every time I walk downtown now, I hear the song Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley in my head and I make up new words to go with my buffaloes. Foursquare is fun and I suggest you give it a whirl. Especially if you have a business. There are so many ways you can use it for customer perks!

Out of the blue in left field

Last fall I attended a meeting of the Bartlesville Marketing and Communications Association where I am a member. The speaker that day was talking about communicating change within your company. It was a really interesting presentation and she showed us a tool she used called a communication message wheel.

At the end of the meeting, they asked if anyone had any announcements. The Symphony had an announcement and the Community Center had an announcement. I thought, “why not?” and announced that we did not have a Mrs. Bartlesville for the 2010 pageant and that we were accepting applications. Everyone laughed. I was hurt.

My friend, Lee, was at the meeting. He doesn’t usually come but he was there that day. The next day, out of the blue, he called.

“Have you used that change wheel for your pageant yet?” he asked.

“Why?” I said.

“Well isn’t it obvious?”

And there it was, out of left field, an idea whose time had come.

Lee went on to say that he knows what my pageant is about because we have lunch here and there and we talk about it. But he wondered how many other people were hearing my message?

As the director of the Mrs. Oklahoma International pageant, I’ve always felt it was my role to stay in the background and promote the platforms of my State and local titleholders. But Lee was right. Who is telling the story of the pageant?

Today, I was asked to speak at the Bartlesville Kiwanis Club meeting. I got to tell the background and information about the state and National pageant. Interspersed with the details I got to share a lot of the amazing things that my titleholders are doing. It was awesome. My biggest fear was that I would cry. I really am so proud of the women who compete in our pageant that I get choked up sometimes when I watch all of the incredible things they are accomplishing around the state.

I was blessed to introduce Mrs. Bartlesville 2011 who then shared a little about her platform and why she decided to enter our pageant. It was wonderful to see how receptive the group was to her message.

I hope to be able to share the pageant story with various groups around the state. I think they will be surprised by what we like to call the journey that changes lives.

As it changes my titleholders lives, so does it change mine.

OMG I found it!

Jesus Christ Superstar rocks Bartlesville
Lauri Rottmayer

Originally posted to BartlesvilleLive.com, April 28, 2009

Jesus Christ Superstar was on the stage Monday night at the Bartlesville Community Center. The role of Jesus was played, as it has been on and off for nearly 40 years, by Ted Neeley. In his own words, this is “absolutely remarkable”.

Neeley headlined the first touring company of the musical in 1971 which opened in New York and starred in the movie that hit the screen in 1973. Neeley credits the longevity of the show to the story.

“No question, it’s the story. Absolutely it’s the story, ” said Neeley. “Everybody has a space in their heart that is so warm and wonderful with praises for this story.” The story takes the last seven days of the life of Jesus Christ and tells through the eyes of the people that surrounded him, how they were influenced by his presence. Neeley points out that the audience is able to see Jesus as a man who walked on the earth with all the foibles that men and women have.

Told for years by fans that they discovered the base of their own spirituality through watching the show, Neeley himself has found an amazing depth of spirituality that he was not even aware of prior to playing the role. Raised as a Southern Baptist, he was in church more than he was in school by choice and not by force. He had a pretty good idea of what Jesus was about. “However for me,” said Neeley “Jesus was always a stained glass window. Jesus was this beautiful stained glass window, magnificent painting, portrait. Not someone with whom I could sit down and talk with.” Superstar brought the human element of Jesus Christ to Neeley and he hears from people all that time that it is Superstar that helped them to understand the story in the Bible.

The musical was the first collaboration of Tim Rice and Andrew Lloyd Webber to be produced on the professional stage. According to Neeley, Webber and Rice were in New York like any other tourists who were amazed at what the city was all about and overwhelmed that someone was doing their project as a Broadway show. Even today, the two remain involved in the production. “It’s their baby,” said Neeley describing the supportive and talented duo. “It’s their first one.”

The tours of Superstar, which are usually set to run between three and six months, have gone on for several years. The current tour has been on the road since 2006 and the prior tour ran from 1991 through 1997. With the sheer number of performances, a performer might start feeling stale but not Neeley. “I still feel like a little child at Christmas with new toys,” he said “because I know that every night when we do this, sometimes twice on Saturday and Sundays, there are going to be children in that audience who are seeing it for the very first time and are going to see something that will last the rest of their lives.” More so than anything he has ever done, Neeley feels that this opportunity is remarkable. He knows that the children will go to church on Sunday or where ever they go to praise and they’re going to take the truth with them.

The current tour ends this week and Neeley does have two other projects that he has been pushing back to continue in this role. He doesn’t confirm or deny internet rumors of more stops on the current tour but says he has no need to stop. Humbly speaking about all of the attention he receives as the show’s central character, Neeley credits the wonderful cast and crew with working their hearts out every night. “You see the enthusiasm up on stage every night,” he said. “When the music starts, magic happens.”